DEAR ABBY: Our son is being married in June. We are now in the process of preparing the guest list. Two of our close relatives live in nursing homes and do not get out to visit anymore. One is a dear aunt, the other is the groom's uncle.
Should we send them invitations? We would like to, but we're afraid it would appear we're asking for a gift. -- UNDECIDED IN ST. PAUL
DEAR UNDECIDED: Instead of sending them invitations, send a card or chatty letter bringing the relatives up-to-date on what's happening in your family -- and an announcement after the wedding so they remain "in the loop." That way, they can share in your joy without feeling obligated in any way.