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by Abigail Van Buren

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DEAR ABBY: We are fast approaching the first anniversary of Sept. 11, 2001. For those who experienced the death of a loved one, the anniversary of that unforgettable day will rekindle feelings of profound loss and pain.

AARP has a 28-year history of bereavement support, and since Sept. 11 has developed new grief and loss programs and resources that are available to anyone, not just AARP members.

AARP's Web site,, offers extensive information, resources and support, including chat rooms and discussion boards, consumer tips, online journaling and information on support groups and their locations. AARP also provides a wide range of publications in English and Spanish designed to reach all bereaved adults.

Abby, we are also offering your readers a free brochure titled, "Understanding the Grief Process." This brochure provides an overview of grief and loss, its unique impact, and resources to assist individuals and their families in the grief process. Readers can order their free copy (Order No. D16832) by calling our toll-free number: (800) 424-3410.

Together, we can help bereaved adults begin rebuilding their lives. -- SUSAN KOVAC ECKRICH, DIRECTOR, AARP GRIEF AND LOSS PROGRAMS

DEAR SUSAN: Thank you for your timely letter. Although your programs are intended for friends and families of people who died as a result of last year's terrorist attacks, I am sure they will also be helpful to many others who are struggling with the emotions that accompany the loss of a loved one.