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by Abigail Van Buren

Bride's Witching Hour Has Family Bothered, Bewildered

DEAR ABBY: My pastor's wife has a big mouth. She's very sweet, and I sincerely believe she's not intentionally being malicious, but she tells me things about people who are seeing her husband for counseling.

I know who is having serious medical problems, drinking problems, marital problems, etc. If she's telling me these things, I can only imagine what she talks about to other women. I'm afraid her actions will ultimately bring down the church. It happened once before. Should I confront her? Tell an elder? What should I do? -- MYSTIFIED IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR MYSTIFIED: Confession may be good for the soul, but not if it's being broadcast. By all means confront the pastor's wife. Tell her that what she is doing could end her husband's career. If more rumors reach you, warn the pastor that his wife is leaking confidential information. He needs to know.