DEAR ABBY: I am 23 years old and have been engaged to "Leon" for five months. Recently I started having doubts about whether or not he's the right guy for me.
Leon and I have been together about two years, and my fear is that I have pressured him into proposing because all my friends were getting married.
Frankly, I'm scared to tell my fiance what I'm feeling, because I don't want to hurt him. If we cancel our wedding, we will lose the deposits we've placed for many of the wedding services –- even though our wedding date is a year away.
To further complicate matters, we planned on taking Leon's little sister on a trip to Orlando with my family this December, and it would crush her if we called it off. (The plane tickets have already been purchased.)
Please help me, Abby. I'm so confused. -- UNSURE BRIDE-TO-BE IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR UNSURE: No matter how much you might lose in security deposits, it's a drop in the bucket compared to what you will lose if you marry someone you don't love or want to spend a lifetime with.
Cancel the engagement now, and let the December vacation take care of itself. You'll know what to do when the time comes. Just because an engagement hasn't worked out doesn't mean you can't be friends with his sister.
P.S. If Leon felt pressured into proposing, he may be as relieved as you are when you give him the news.