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by Abigail Van Buren

When Couple Opens Bedroom Curtains, Neighbor Sees a Show

DEAR ABBY: A few months ago, new neighbors moved into the house behind ours. The lots in our development are small and the houses are close together. The new people are not friendly. I don't know their names. The man installed sliding glass doors in their ground-level bedroom. He also built a 6-foot-tall privacy wall in front of it.

Our house is on a slight knoll, and when I am standing at my kitchen sink, I can see over the fence directly into their bedroom. They have drapes, but at night they turn on their lamps, watch TV and leave the drapes open.

I am uncomfortable seeing them get intimate on their bed. Since I can see them, I assume they can see me. Should I knock on their door and tell them? Or should I ignore it and put up a window shade in my kitchen window? -- BLUSHING IN BALTIMORE

DEAR BLUSHING: Since your new neighbors are "not friendly," I see no reason to knock on their door with the news. Write them a short note and explain that when the lights are on in their bedroom, it is illuminated like a stage at night. They can't see the audience, but the audience can see them clearly. You'll be doing them a favor.

If they ignore your note, instead of putting up a window shade and closing yourself in, consider planting a tree or large bush on your side of the fence that will block the view from your kitchen sink.