DEAR ABBY: Last year our 18-year-old son, "Tommy," started dating a young lady from his community college. I'll call her June.
From the start, my husband and I liked June. On occasion we would take her and our son out for dinner or to a family function. June and I shared many interests and became good friends.
Six months later, Tommy announced that he was breaking up with her because their relationship was going nowhere. I was disappointed but accepted his decision.
Now Tommy doesn't want me to be friendly with June. He won't speak to her and will not allow me to mention her name in his presence.
What should I do? June seems to enjoy our mother/daughter relationship, and so do I. -- TORN-UP MOM IN MILFORD, OHIO
P.S. Tommy has not yet moved on to another girl.
DEAR TORN-UP MOM: From the way your son is behaving, there's more to the story of the breakup than he has revealed to you. Although you may yearn for a daughter, June isn't going to be her.
Allow your relationship with June to cool a little. If you don't, your relationship with your son will suffer. His feelings should take priority.