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by Abigail Van Buren

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DEAR ABBY: I need some advice about my boyfriend. We have been dating for three years. He started off our relationship telling me he loved me.

About a year ago, he began introducing me to everyone as his "roommate." When I confronted him about it, he said he didn't love me anymore. We still live together -- until I move out -- and he tells me often that we should stay together because we get along so well.

I'm confused. What exactly is it that he wants from me? -- TIRED OF BEING HURT IN WASHINGTON

DEAR TIRED: Much depends upon what he's getting from you. From my perspective, he wants someone to share the rent, with no strings attached and no responsibility.

If I were you, I'd move sooner rather than later. The romance is over, and you two have very different agendas.