DEAR ABBY: For 3 1/2 months, I have been going once a week to a sex therapist who has been trying to help me work out my physical and emotional sex problems.
Lately, my husband, "Danny," has grown suspicious about my whereabouts. Danny believes I am romantically involved with an intern I have been training at the office. I do not wish to reveal to him my true whereabouts because I am afraid it may affect his self-esteem and, in turn, our sex life.
Should I tell my husband the truth and risk him feeling inadequate, or not tell him and jeopardize our relationship? -- SEXLESS IN SEATTLE
DEAR SEATTLE: You should absolutely tell your husband the truth about where you have been going, and why. He needs to know the truth, because he needs to be part of the solution to the problem. (Explain to him that this isn't his "fault.")
Frankly, I am surprised that you would be seeing a sex therapist as an individual because this is a COUPLE's problem, and the most common form of treatment for it is to help the husband and wife together.