DEAR ABBY: I'm a 40-something flight attendant. My husband and I spent a lot of money to have his vasectomy reversed so we could have another baby. It failed.
I began artificial insemination. After I mentioned the situation to one of my co-workers, she said she knew that a handsome young pilot we fly with had donated his sperm at the same clinic I used. Happily, I am now pregnant.
I suspect my girlfriend told the pilot because he now goes out of his way to avoid me. I can't be sure, but the pilot matches the description in the clinic's donor catalog of the specimen I used.
This whole thing is supposed to be anonymous, but I'm dying to talk to the pilot to confirm my suspicions. If the pilot is the father, should I tell my husband? -- FLYING HIGH IN CLEVELAND
DEAR FLYING HIGH: The paternity of your baby cannot be determined without a DNA test, and sperm banks usually have many anonymous donors. I see no reason to discuss this conjecture with either the pilot or your husband.
P.S. I'm taken aback at the thought that the pilot in question would have discussed his "donations" with your co-worker.