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by Abigail Van Buren

Young Adult Now Is Grateful for Parents Who Were Strict

DEAR ABBY: It is unfair to that teen to shelter her to the extent that she'll be completely unprepared for the real world in two more years. Her parents aren't allowing her to learn street smarts or social skills, and she'll be vulnerable because of it.

Studies show that teens who engage in the least drug use or sex come not from the strictest households (and obviously not from the most permissive), but from moderate ones.

Please tell "Captive's" parents to lighten up a little, so she won't have to go through what I did. All they are fostering in her is anger and resentment. -- ASHLEY IN HIGHLAND PARK, N.J.

DEAR ASHLEY: You are right; there must be a sense of balance.