DEAR ABBY: My older sister, age 77, has been widowed for eight years.
She met a man from church whom she dates; it's the first time she has dated since being widowed. They spend some vacation time together and go on weekend trips.
He tells her he will never marry. She thinks someday she can change his mind. We know that he also sees a younger woman. He denies it -- and my sister believes him. He has broken off with her twice, and she keeps running back to him.
I want her to be happy. She has dyed her gray hair to an awful-looking brown and acts like a teenager. I have tried to talk to her, but she doesn't listen. Her health isn't good. What should I do? -- WORRIED SISTER
DEAR WORRIED SISTER: Be supportive and loving and let your sister live her own life. Whatever his intentions, it appears that this man from church has given your sister something to live for. Since her health isn't good, let her enjoy the time she has. She's hurting no one, and she may be stronger than you think.
P.S. If the romance ends badly, be supportive, bite your tongue, and DON'T say, "I told you so."