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by Abigail Van Buren

Mom Awaits Unhappy Birthday Because of Daughter's Late Card

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have a 15-year-old daughter I'll call Anna. She's a good girl and has a very casual boyfriend, who is also 15. Occasionally they get together at our house to talk.

Anna and her dad think she should be able to visit with her boyfriend upstairs in her bedroom. I feel that even though their relationship is innocent, eventually Anna will become more interested in boys. Therefore, it's a good idea that all visitors of the opposite sex be entertained in a common living area -- like the living room, family room or kitchen. Then these kids can occasionally be checked on.

Abby, please let me know your opinion. -- NOT UPSET YET

DEAR NOT UPSET YET: I agree with you. There is less temptation when everything is out in the open.