DEAR ABBY: Like "Cathy in Coral Gables, Fla.," I am 15 and having my first serious relationship with a boyfriend. I'll call him "Lamar." I used to call Lamar at least 10 times a day and go to his house every day. Like "Cathy," I finally got the impression that his family didn't want me calling that many times or visiting every day. So, do you know what I did, Abby? I cut back. I now call Lamar only five times a day and visit every other day.
Ever since I cut back, Lamar and I have grown closer. Now I am not only in love with him, but I'm in love with his whole family -- and I think they love me, too. -- CUT BACK IN MISSOURI
DEAR CUT BACK: Smart girl. Now, consider how much they'll love you if you call only three times a day -- and drop by no more than twice a week. They may even adopt you!