DEAR ABBY: You are a champion of the unsung hero, and I would like to bring to your attention the wonderful people who work the crisis telephone lines. Those selfless men and women provide an ear to those who think no one is listening, a word of praise to depressed callers, or sometimes just a shoulder to cry on. They give of their own time to listen without judging, and provide emergency referrals when necessary. Those caring individuals deserve far more praise than mere words can convey.
Please, Abby, thank them for me and all of the others who have been uplifted or saved by them. They have saved my life more than once. -- GRATEFUL CALLER IN FLORIDA
DEAR GRATEFUL: With extended families so widely dispersed these days that they barely know one another, crisis lines are often the only lifeline for those in distress. We should all be thankful for the generous, compassionate people who give of themselves to those in desperate need of help or someone to talk to. Bless them for the vital work they do.
DEAR ABBY: In regard to the letter from "Country Gal From Sacramento," who wrote about children wearing name tags while visiting a petting zoo, I submit this scenario:
One summer several neighborhood moms and I decided to take our children to Grant's Farm, a beautiful game preserve here in St. Louis. We wound up with four moms and 10 kids.
I had just finished sewing a brightly colored, striped sundress, so I wore it that day and gave each child a square of my dress fabric, which we safety-pinned to their shirts. You had better believe everyone could see immediately who those kids belonged to.
We had enjoyed the park for about an hour when an employee walked my 6-year-old up to me and said, "I believe he belongs to you." Abby, I hadn't even realized he was missing! But the incident had a happy ending, thanks to my method of keeping tabs on the kids. -- LOST AND FOUND MOM
DEAR MOM: Your solution was unique. As I stated in my original reply, the idea of small children walking around public places wearing name tags makes me uneasy.
P.S. Another reader suggested that when teachers take students on field trips, the teacher's name should be placed on the name tag, or the number of the bus that provided the transportation.
DEAR ABBY: I had a thought after reading the letter from "Feeling Alone in the Office." He complained about his co-worker, "Maury," who can't seem to stop talking to his office mates and customers. It is possible that Maury is an adult with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). If he has ADHD, it would explain why he has trouble controlling his behavior.
If "Feeling Alone" works for a company with medical benefits or an employee assistance plan, perhaps Maury could be evaluated and get some real help. -- PARENT OF A CHILD WITH ADHD
DEAR PARENT: That the man could be an adult with ADHD never occurred to me. It is also possible that he is simply a compulsive talker. Whatever the cause, I agree it wouldn't hurt for him to be evaluated, if he is open to it.
Dear Abby is written by Pauline Phillips and daughter Jeanne Phillips.
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