DEAR ABBY: My neighbor told me she had six people staying in her tiny one-bedroom apartment. She asked if one of her friends could stay in my spare room. She said he had plane reservations to return home in a couple of days, so I agreed.
My problem is this "friend" has been smoking in my non-smoking home, eating all my food, making long-distance calls on my telephone, "getting it on" in my spare bed -– and so far, has missed three flights home.
I've always been friendly with my neighbor, but I want her friend out of my apartment –- now. Have you any ideas? –- FEELING USED IN EUGENE, ORE.
DEAR FEELING USED: Your "guest" has taken flagrant advantage of your act of charity. If you want your privacy back, put some starch in your spine and tell him he's worn out the welcome mat -– it's time to go and you want him out in 12 hours. Stick to your guns and accept no excuses. "Help" him pack if necessary. Don't let him make you feel guilty for standing up for yourself. It's uncanny how freeloaders like your "friend" manage to survive.