DEAR ABBY: Over the past year, I have found several unsigned romantic greeting cards in my husband's truck, or in bags stashed throughout the house. I would wait a few days to see if I received any of them, and after time passed, confront my husband about them. He said he was waiting for the "right opportunity" to give them to me.
Well, it's been months, and I haven't received a single card from my husband. I'm beginning to wonder if there is someone else who is getting them.
Should I confront him again or keep waiting to see what happens? -- WAITING FOR MAIL IN PHILLY
DEAR WAITING: You've waited long enough. If the cards were meant for you, you would have received at least a few of them. Tell your husband that unless he straightens out and flies right, you'll send HIM a card that says, "Change of Address."
DEAR ABBY: I live in a hot climate. I have the only swimming pool in the area. My neighbors and their children have taken an invitation to swim on a particular day as an opportunity to use my pool whenever their hearts desire.
Abby, I don't want people in my pool on a daily basis. Maintenance is expensive, and I want my privacy.
How can I politely let people know that my pool is not open all the time and still maintain friendly relations with my neighbors? -- PRIVATE POOL OWNER
DEAR POOL OWNER: Let your neighbors know that your pool is open to them from ( ) to ( ) on a specified day and that children must be supervised by parents at all times.
If a regular schedule is not acceptable, do what other readers have done: Buy a decorative flag and let your neighbors know that when they see the flag is flying, visitors are welcome as long as children are accompanied by parents.
You have a right to your privacy, but you must assert that right or it will be ignored.
DEAR ABBY: I am the mother of a beautiful 2 1/2-year-old girl. She lives with her adoptive parents two hours from where I now live. I know they love her very much and take excellent care of her.
Mother's Day has passed, but during the weeks leading up to it, I was reminded of it on television, in newspapers and in retail stores -- everywhere I turned. Mothers are very important and should be honored by their children and husbands, but I am a mother, too!
I did what I thought was best for my daughter by giving her to parents who could take better care of her than I. I don't begrudge them anything, but I am tired of being forgotten on Mother's Day.
Please, Abby, I know Mother's Day has passed, but would you wish a belated Happy Mother's Day to all birth mothers, especially the ones with no one else to say it? -- BIRTH MOTHER IN BALTIMORE
DEAR BIRTH MOTHER: With pleasure.
Dear Abby is written by Pauline Phillips and daughter Jeanne Phillips.
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