Dear Abby is written by Pauline Phillips and daughter Jeanne Phillips.
Adoptathon Finds Good Homes for Orphaned Pets Everywhere
DEAR ABBY: Spring is here, and it's time to alert pet-loving people to the 2001 Pet Adoptathon. The slogan, "From the Golden Gate to the Empire State," says it all.
The North Shore Animal League America's Tour for Life, organized in conjunction with the San Francisco SPCA, began in the Bay City on April 12. On that day, the league's huge mobile adoption center transported pets from the animal shelter to centralized community locations in an effort to find loving adoptive homes for hundreds of orphaned pets.
From the Golden Gate, the 35-foot shelter-on-wheels motored southeast to Albuquerque, continued on to Dallas, traveled east and south to Fort Lauderdale, turned north to New York City and finally, on May 3, will arrive at the Empire State Building -- a true lifesaving journey to help animal organizations along the way to find loving homes for their needy dogs and cats.
The Tour for Life does not end there: It actually signals the start of the North Shore Animal League America's worldwide Pet Adoptathon 2001 on May 5 and 6. This annual event is a spectacular lifesaving weekend during which more than 2,500 shelters in all 50 states and 29 foreign countries join together to find permanent homes for all the pets in their care. Since the league founded Pet Adoptathon in 1995, more than 100,000 orphaned pets have been placed in excellent adoptive homes. As impressive as this total sounds, NSAL America and Pet Adoptathon shelters want to do even more.
The league -- and all participating organizations around the world -- implore animal lovers to adopt a dog, cat, puppy or kitten during the Pet Adoptathon weekend on May 5 and 6. Last year, our combined efforts saved the lives of tens of thousands of pets worldwide. This year, we hope another 40,000 animals will be adopted by kind and caring folks.
For the name of the Pet Adoptathon shelter near you, call toll-free: 1-877-BE-MY-PAL (1-877-236-9725) or visit the Web site: www.petadoptathon.com. -- J. JOHN STEVENSON, PRESIDENT, NORTH SHORE ANIMAL LEAGUE AMERICA
DEAR JOHN: Thank you for the exciting news about your pet adoption programs for 2001. Your mobile adoption center reminds me of the saying, "If Mohammad can't go to the mountain, the mountain will go to Mohammad." I'm sure your efforts will be greeted with enthusiasm by animal lovers everywhere.
Readers, if you have been longing for a pet and thinking about buying one, please open your hearts and homes to a loving shelter pet. They have so much love to give, and all of it can be yours if you participate in this year's North Shore Animal League's Adoptathon. Purr-purr, woof-woof! -- and away we go!
DEAR ABBY: My sister gave birth to her first child a few months ago. He was a beautiful baby, called home by God on the day he was born. My sister is an incredibly strong person, but I know she's hurting more than she lets on.
With Mother's Day approaching, I am wondering if it would be appropriate to give her a Mother's Day card. I don't want to make her sadder than she already is, but I also don't want her to think I've forgotten or don't care. I'm not sure what I should do. -- GRIEVING AUNT IN NEW YORK
DEAR GRIEVING: I am very sorry you lost your precious nephew. My heart goes out to you and his dear mother.
Yes, by all means, acknowledge your sister's loss -- but not with a traditional Happy Mother's Day card. Select a beautiful blank card and write your own personal message of remembrance.
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DEDICATED FOSTER PARENTS GIVE KIDS THE TOOLS TO SUCCEED
DEAR ABBY: We are an actress and a basketball player writing to you to ask your help in lighting a lamp of inspiration for the 600,000 children currently living in foster care.
May is National Foster Care Awareness Month, and we would like former foster children to join us in sharing their personal stories.
We both grew up in the foster care system. Being a foster child can be a painful and isolating experience, leaving many children without direction and purpose in their lives. We acknowledge that many foster children have experienced shame and felt "unattached" -- with no real sense of belonging to a family or community. Yet, we know firsthand that as painful as it is for children to live without their parents, foster care can also be the best thing for a child in harm's way. It was for us.
We were blessed to receive support and commitment from dedicated foster parents and mentors who believed we could fulfill our greatest dreams. And both of us, as well as thousands of other foster children, have gone on to lead successful and productive lives.
We believe that the skills and life lessons learned by former foster children can serve to light the way for those now in foster care. They can inspire current foster families and social workers by reminding them of the enormous difference their dedication makes, and encourage other caring individuals to become foster parents.
By sharing our personal stories, we can bring a world of promise to children in foster care, and provide them with clear examples of how they can live their lives to the fullest, and in doing so, enrich the lives of others. It is a legacy that all of us who have been in foster care must leave for our children and the future. -- VICTORIA ROWELL AND ALONZO MOURNING, NATIONAL SPOKESPERSONS FOR FOSTER CARE
DEAR VICTORIA AND ALONZO: You are living proof that with consistent mentoring, and with caring foster parents with an abundance of patience, foster children can succeed. For them to achieve, strong role models are essential because children absorb what they see around them.
That is why I am joining you in asking other successful former foster children to take pen in hand and share their stories. What was it that worked for you? What fortified you when times were difficult? Your personal experiences can bolster and enlighten current foster parents, inspire new ones and improve the foster care system. I know I can count on you. My readers are the most generous people in the world when it comes to giving of themselves.
Please address your letters to: Casey Family Services, 1 Corporate Drive, Shelton, CT 06484. The toll-free number is 1-888-799-KIDS (5437). The e-mail address is: dearabbyresponse@rowellfosterchildren.org. They're waiting to hear from you.
DEAR ABBY: I have been with the same man for 17 years. I would like to get married, but he is not saying anything. What should I do? -- STILL SINGLE IN NEWARK, N.J.
DEAR STILL SINGLE: You have been incredibly patient to have waited this long for a proposal of marriage. Tell him it's time the two of you tied the knot. If he gives you an argument, perhaps it's time for you to consider whether you're better off with him or without him.
Dear Abby is written by Pauline Phillips and daughter Jeanne Phillips.
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Veterans of Merchant Marine Should Enjoy Hard Won Status
DEAR ABBY: World War II mariners, who suffered the highest casualty rate of any of the branches of service while they delivered troops, tanks, airplanes and fuel to every theater of war, were belatedly awarded veteran status in 1988 and in 1998.
Thus far, only 95,000 out of a quarter-million eligible mariners, or their survivors, have applied for veteran status. Application procedures can be found at www.USMM.org/update.html or by sending a business-size self-addressed, stamped (55 cents) envelope to AMMV: WWII, P.O. Box 2361, Berkeley, CA 94702.
This is important because men and women who served in the U.S. Merchant Marines and the U.S. Army Transport Service may be eligible for medical care and prescriptions through the Veterans Administration. At the very least, they can tell their grandchildren they are "veterans of World War II," and can get a flag for their coffin and a grave marker.
Mariners from the Korean, Vietnam, Gulf wars, and the U.S. Maritime Service, the official WWII Merchant Marine training organization, should contact AMMV: OTHER, at the above address, so that they, too, can join together in applying for veteran status. -- DANIEL HORODYSKY, COMMUNICATIONS DIRECTOR, AMERICAN MERCHANT MARINE VETERANS
DEAR DANIEL: I am pleased that these unsung heroes are now able to receive benefits, as they should have been in the first place. Better late than never.
DEAR ABBY: Thank you for printing the letter from "Karen in Virginia," who after years of suffering was finally diagnosed as having endometriosis. After reading your column, I visited the Web site you mentioned (www.killercramps.org). Many of the symptoms were familiar to me, so I took the quiz and discovered that was probably my problem, too.
I talked to my mother about it and learned that both she and my grandmother had endometriosis, so I made an appointment with my gynecologist. The doctor recommended that in the very near future I undergo a procedure to have the tissue removed.
Had I not read about it in your column, I never would have known how serious endometriosis can be. Because of that column, I won't have to endure more years of pain. Thank you again, Abby. Sign me ... GRATEFUL IN OKLAHOMA
DEAR GRATEFUL: I was surprised at the number of women who suffer from this problem. More than half a million women visited the Endometriosis Association Web site after reading Karen's letter. Read on:
DEAR ABBY: "Karen in Virginia" wrote about the pain and suffering of endometriosis. It is also important to note that this debilitating disease can cause infertility.
Women with endometriosis who wish to have children need special care from their OB-GYN and must take steps early to preserve their fertility. These women should not wait until they are ready to start their families before seeking medical help.
RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association has information and educational materials for women with endometriosis who are planning to have children. For more information, patients can visit the RESOLVE Web site at www.resolve.org or call the RESOLVE helpline at 617-623-0744. -- JOAN C. BOWEN, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR
DEAR JOAN: I hope you're prepared for an onslaught of inquiries -- because you're going to get them.
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