DEAR ABBY: I am a 34-year-old single male, never married. I recently met a woman I want to marry, but here is my problem: She wants a big wedding, and it makes me uncomfortable.
I have no close male friends, so I would have a hard time finding a best man, much less groomsmen. Also, I don't have a good relationship with my family, so I don't think many guests on my side would attend. Because of this, I think a big wedding would be embarrassing. Her family would think I am a loser. Any suggestions? -- TIED UP IN KNOTS
DEAR TIED UP: One of the most important ingredients in a successful marriage is communication. Tell your fiancee how you feel. A wedding is for both the bride AND groom. It shouldn't be a fantasy created only by the bride. Therefore, she may have to alter her dream wedding to conform with reality.
P.S. If you are unhappy not having male friends, you may have self-esteem issues that need to be explored. Please consider counseling to resolve them.