DEAR ABBY: My parents are in their 80s, in moderately good health, and live a modest lifestyle. They are active and youthful in many ways. We children and grandchildren love them dearly and look forward to spending time with them.
Our relationship is sustained by mutual enjoyment instead of guilt. They have many old friends and constantly make new ones. What is it about my folks that draws people to them? What makes them so popular with people of all ages? Here's the answer:
-- They listen more than they talk.
-- They rarely complain about anything.
-- They show a genuine interest in others by asking meaningful questions without being judgmental.
-- They live in the present, and although they appreciate the "good ol' days," they don't dwell on them.
-- They enjoy young people and recognize that each generation has both good and bad.
-- They are fun and interesting to talk to because they are learning new things and want to share them with us.
-- And finally, they can laugh at themselves. Growing old can be a real grind, but through it all, they find a little humor.
Relationships are a two-way street, and a lifelong endeavor. I hope that when I'm as old as my parents I will be like them. -- LUCKY DAUGHTER IN MINNESOTA
DEAR DAUGHTER: Your parents sound like wonderful people. However, the traits that make them sought after apply not only to seniors, but to people of all ages. So if you want to be the kind of person your parents are when you reach the age of 80, start practicing now.