DEAR ABBY: Last year, my husband went into business with a close friend. Since then, he refuses to let me see any financial statements, including the 1099 form used for filing income taxes. He says my wanting to see these records proves I don't trust him.
I love him and want to believe him, but I have my doubts. His partner's wife told me my husband is lying. She says he earns far more than he tells me. I've never seen a payroll stub.
Every week, he gives me money to pay the bills and buy groceries. In turn, I give him "pocket money" for the week -- usually $5 to $10 a day. He says he's glad I take the money because I manage it well.
Abby, why would he lie to me? Shouldn't married people know each other's incomes? -- FEELING UNEASY IN NEW ENGLAND
DEAR FEELING UNEASY: Your husband's reluctance to show you financial statements indicates that he doesn't trust YOU with the knowledge of his true financial status. Of course married couples should know where they stand financially.
Refuse to sign any tax forms unless you have reviewed them and understand them completely. You are as liable as your husband is for any inaccuracies or misinformation. If your husband gives you an argument, consult a lawyer.