DEAR ABBY: I am facing a serious problem. I have an 18-month-old son. His father refuses to do anything for him -- with the exception of supporting him financially. He considers our child to be an 18-year debt -- not a son.
I'm 21 and can make it without his support. I want to terminate this man's rights to my son and stop the support payments. My little boy will never know this man as a loving father, and I want to remarry and have someone adopt him.
Everyone around me says I am stupid to want such a thing, that I should continue to make him pay. I want what is best emotionally for my son. Abby, what should I do? -- DESPERATE MOTHER IN N.C.
DEAR DESPERATE: Considering the lack of attachment the boy's father has for his child, I sympathize with what you would like to do. Consult a lawyer and discuss the advisability of terminating the legal arrangement you now have. That way, you will know if there are any financial pitfalls ahead.