DEAR ABBY: My fiance and I plan to be married next spring. It has been decided that his mother is no longer welcome at the ceremony. We haven't come up with a polite way to tell her.
To avoid potential problems, we are considering going on a "vacation," during which we will be married with only a few friends in attendance.
Have you any other ideas? -- WE HAVE OUR REASONS
DEAR WE HAVE OUR REASONS: There is no polite way to tell your future mother-in-law she is no longer welcome to attend your wedding. An elopement would achieve your goal without humiliating her.