DEAR ABBY: For the past few years, our elderly neighbor has come over to our house on Christmas morning. We are usually still in our pajamas watching our children opening their gifts.
Abby, I would prefer to enjoy this special morning with my immediate family ONLY. I don't want this neighbor intruding. How can I handle this delicate situation without hurting her feelings? -- FEELING LIKE THE GRINCH
DEAR FEELING: Your family may remind her of her own -- or the one she always wanted. However, your lonely neighbor won't stop coming for early morning festivities until you set limits.
A few days before Christmas, invite her to come to your home at a specific time -- for example, 1 p.m. to 3 p.m. on Christmas Day, or on Christmas Eve, if that is more convenient.