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by Abigail Van Buren

Husband's Double Life Online Leaves Wife Feeling Betrayed

DEAR ABBY: My mother and grandmother have been living with me and my two young daughters for the past couple of years. I think it's time they moved out, but whenever I bring it up, they just blow me off.

Abby, I need my life back. What can I do? If I throw them out, I'll be the family pariah -- even though nobody else is willing to take them in. I believe Mom and Grandma could live together on their own, but they refuse. Help! -- SMOTHERED IN MARYLAND

DEAR SMOTHERED: Set a deadline for them to relocate. Then find an affordable apartment for them and help them move. After that, change your locks and batten down the hatches, because you will receive criticism for having asserted yourself. Stand firm, and you'll be free at last.