DEAR ABBY: About eight months ago, my 20-year-old nephew moved into our home. My husband and I decided at the time we wouldn't charge him rent so he could get caught up on his bills.
The problem is that without asking, he now has his 18-year-old girlfriend staying overnight at least three or four times a week. She has been showering here on occasion and has eaten here, too. She doesn't live at home, but with other people.
Abby, I don't want her staying here. I think my nephew is being disrespectful for not having asked my husband or me first. I feel they are taking advantage of us. I would like her to go home at night. Should I say anything to them or keep my mouth shut? I really don't know what to do or say. -- DOESN'T APPROVE IN ABERDEEN, WASH.
DEAR DOESN'T: Speak up! Tell your nephew exactly how you feel, and don't apologize for your feelings. They are valid. It isn't fair to complain that he isn't living by the rules if he hasn't been informed about them. Remember, silence implies consent. If you prefer not to subsidize your nephew's lifestyle, you shouldn't have to. After all, it's your house.