DEAR ABBY: One of my co-workers is being married in the spring. She has announced that none of her co-workers will be invited to her wedding.
That's fine with me because I understand the expense involved with a large guest list. However, she is strongly hinting that I should do her a favor and host a bridal shower for her -- a co-workers' party.
I was under the impression that bridal attendants should host the showers. Am I wrong? -- FEELING GUILTY
DEAR FEELING GUILTY: No -- you are right. Also, no one should be asked to a bridal shower who isn't being invited to attend the wedding.
P.S. Don't feel guilty for ignoring the hints. You're doing her a favor by preventing her from being criticized.