They have already made arrangements to have a big wedding one year from the date of their marriage. I am unsure if I should send a wedding gift now (which would be a check), or wait until the "big" wedding. I would like to do something. What would you suggest?
We sent the couple an engagement gift as soon as we heard the news. I'd really appreciate your input, Abby. –- UNSURE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR UNSURE: Since you have already given the young couple an engagement gift and you are not attending the "small" wedding, wait until you are invited to the "big" celebration before giving them anything more than your heartfelt good wishes.
P.S. Offering to host a baby shower would be a caring and supportive gesture.