DEAR ABBY: I have some dear friends whose daughter was married last March. The wedding, which I attended, was held in their home state. I also sent a very nice gift.
I have never received a thank-you note from this young woman, and I know of at least one other person who hasn't either. Should I just forget it -- or is it permissible to bring this subject up with her parents, my dear friends? It's possible they do not know how absolutely awful their daughter's manners are. We have been friends for more than 25 years. -- FUMING IN RIDGEFIELD, N.J.
DEAR FUMING: Everyone would be better served if you discussed this with the young woman instead of tattling to her parents. I see nothing to be gained by embarrassing and upsetting them. If they are the kind of people who have been dear friends of yours for 25 years, they certainly are familiar with the social graces. It's a pity they didn't rub off on their daughter.