DEAR ABBY: I have read many letters about infighting between ex-spouses. My husband's ex-wife approached me after he and I were married, and told me she felt it would be in the children's best interest for us to be friends.
What a great idea! Since that time, three years ago, she and I have talked, shared feelings, exchanged holiday gifts, been nice to each other in front of the kids, and shown them that it's OK to be friends with and to be nice to someone even though there have been bad times between parents.
This has reduced much stress that the kids were experiencing and allows them to tell us how much they love their mother without feeling guilty, embarrassed or nervous. -- BEEN THERE, DONE THAT IN ALABAMA
DEAR BTDT: I commend your husband's former wife -- and you -- for your mature decision to set aside personal animosity for the benefit of the children. Many families could learn from your example.