DEAR ABBY: My stepson, "George," will be 14 soon. He wants to wear T-shirts with what he considers funny sayings on them. He bought one that reads: "You're just like your girl, easy to score on." His dad and I find it offensive and don't want him to wear it in public. I offered to return it, but George refused and is offended that we don't agree with his choice. He says his friends think it's funny. He argues that it's the shirt giving the message, not him.
George's father and I think the message is sexist and reflects on us if he wears such a shirt.
Should we allow him to do what he wants with the shirt, or should we replace it with one we consider acceptable? -- OFFENDED STEPMOM
DEAR OFFENDED: Your stepson is asserting his independence, which is normal for his age. However, you and his father are the parents, and the decision rests with you.
No need to replace the shirt -- just insist that he put it away until he's an adult and self-sufficient. He may not agree with your decision, but when he matures, he will understand why you made it.