DEAR ABBY: My husband is a CEO of a large company. He does business with many other companies and travels all over the country. We are both 65 years old.
He has made it a practice to hug and kiss -- on the mouth -- all the female CEOs and associates he does business with. I'm not comfortable with this because I think it is unprofessional. (He's had several affairs in the past.)
He calls them "honey," "darling," etc. -- they are the age of our daughter (40).
I want him to stop this practice. Do you think I am being small and narrow-minded at this stage of the "game"? -- CONCERNED IN THE SOUTHWEST
DEAR CONCERNED: Considering his past infidelities, I don't think you are being small and narrow-minded.
Calling these women "honey" and "darling" may seem affectionate to him, but it indicates a lack of respect for them as adult women.
Tell him that as the CEO, he is in a position of power, and if he makes inappropriate remarks or advances to women, he could be slapped with a sexual harassment lawsuit -- or just slapped, period.
DEAR ABBY: I was shocked that you agreed with "Diane in Scappoose, Ore.," who wrote that children in shopping carts should be put into the automobile before the groceries.
With all the car-jackings going on, the last thing you should do is put your children in the car first. I attended a briefing given by the police department, and one of the things they say you should never do is put your children in the car before the groceries. It takes only a second for a car-jacker to demand your keys and jump in and drive off.
Groceries can be replaced -- children cannot. The best thing to do is keep the cart beside you while you load the groceries. -- LIZ IN DELAWARE
DEAR LIZ: You weren't the only reader who informed me that I goofed when I put "the 'grocery cart' before the horse."
Parents, please make sure that the grocery cart doesn't roll away with your child in it while you load the groceries into your car. And when you are finished, please remember to secure your children in a car seat or safety belt.
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I had a very small church wedding. She refused to consummate our marriage for nearly two months and wouldn't tell me the reason why. It was not because she was afraid to have sex, because she was not a virgin when we married. When she finally gave in, I could hardly keep up with her.
Our wedding anniversary is coming up soon. On what date should we celebrate our anniversary? The date we were married in church, or the date our marriage was consummated? -- WANTS TO CELEBRATE
DEAR WANTS TO CELEBRATE: The date on the marriage certificate would be fine in most cases, but in your case, celebrate on the date that means the most to you.
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