DEAR ABBY: I have been dating my fiance for nearly two years. We are being married in a few months. He was raised in a male-dominated family, and he treats me like a daughter he can boss around, instead of his future wife.
We've talked about this many times. He truly believes that he is "taking care of me" and "protecting me for my own good." I appreciate his intentions, but his approach makes me angry.
I was raised in a home where we were all treated equally, and I had been taking care of myself long before I met him.
I love him, and I know he loves me, but how can I make him realize that I don't think it's cute when he treats me like the "inferior sex"? -- MAIDEN IN MARYLAND
DEAR MAIDEN: Put him on notice and tell him seriously how much his boorish behavior is resented, and you're afraid that if he doesn't change, it will destroy your relationship.
Postpone your wedding plans until you are absolutely certain he will treat you like an adult and an equal partner.