DEAR ABBY: While on a whitewater rafting trip, I was rescued from drowning by a man in a kayak, and I can't stop thinking about him. I am happily married, but am worried that I have "fallen in love" with the man who saved my life.
The man not only pulled me out of the water, he held my hand and kept eye contact for 15 minutes while I was in shock. He took care of me until I felt safe again.
I sent him a four-page thank-you letter. Now I watch the mailbox, waiting for a reply. What can I do to close this matter? Have I fallen in love with "my hero"? -- GRATEFUL SURVIVOR
DEAR GRATEFUL: You are confusing gratitude with love, and ordinarily people do not respond to letters of thanks.
Think of the experience this way: The man saved your life so you and your husband can enjoy many more years of happily married life together.