DEAR ABBY: The letter you printed regarding the wedding lottery invitation reminded me of the telephone call I received from the mother of the groom.
She informed me there was to be no shower for the bride. The bride and her mother were going shopping for the things the bride would need for her new home. Every item was to be gift-wrapped individually, and the name of the "donor" was to be written on each package.
Although I had already given the couple a generous engagement gift, I was "invited" to send a check to pay for "my" shower gift.
Incredulous, and thinking I had misunderstood, I asked the woman to repeat the request. Then I said a quiet goodbye. -- NO DUMMY IN N.Y.C.
DEAR NO DUMMY: Just when I think I have seen everything, along comes another "believe it or not" letter. You weren't being invited to a shower; you were being solicited for a fund-raiser. Therefore, you were within your rights to handle it as you would any other telemarketing call.