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by Abigail Van Buren

Mom Irked by Sister in Law With No Desire to Play Aunt

DEAR ABBY: I have a major problem. I am a 25-year-old single mother with three kids. Fifteen months ago, I met a very attractive 33-year-old man who loves my children and me. He says he wants to marry me, but has not given me a ring.

Three months ago, I met a 42-year-old man who also says he loves me. He adores my kids, is financially secure and says he wants to settle down with me.

I have feelings for both of them. I want to make the right choice, but how do I choose without hurting someone? -- TORN BETWEEN TWO LOVERS

DEAR TORN: Since neither of these men has proposed, you may be counting your chickens before they're hatched. If you care for them equally, marry the one who asks you first.