DEAR ABBY: I am 40, single and childless. I have many friends who are married with children. I have always been curious to know the protocol in my situation. I give birthday and holiday gifts to my friends, then find myself including a generic gift for the spouse and, of course, the child/children.
However, the value of what I receive and what I give is not equivalent. Although friendship has no price tag, I am confused as to whether I should give my friend a gift, and exclude her spouse and kids -- or what? -- WANTS A CLEAR CONSCIENCE
DEAR WANTS: There is no "protocol" in giving gifts to friends. You give what is in your heart and within your means, and receive what friends and family are able to give in return. However, if you provide gifts for three, four or five members of a family on birthdays and holidays, it makes sense that the one gift you receive should reflect that. If you're feeling shortchanged, this year exchange gifts only with your friends.