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by Abigail Van Buren

Teen Wants to Straighten Out New Boyfriend's Love Triangle

DEAR ABBY: I recently met this guy. He's unbelievable! He is sweet, charming and loving. We went to the same high school, but I didn't know him very well then. He tells me he's infatuated with me and can't stop thinking about me. He says he prides himself on being in control, but when he's with me he feels completely out of control.

We really don't date because he goes to law school three hours from my home.

He tells me all the time I have nothing to worry about because he would give me anything I want. He buys me beautiful gifts.

There is only one thing that troubles me. He has a girlfriend. He has been with her for five years. I know he loves her, but I wonder how that can be if he comes around to see me. He says he's working on breaking it off with her, but he has to take it slow. Last night he said if everything is "meant to be" it will happen, and to just follow my heart.

Abby, I'm trying not to, but I'm starting to fall hard for him. I told him I didn't want to share him. He says he totally understands how I feel. Should I continue seeing him and wait to see what happens, or break it off now? -- CONFUSED VIRGINIA TEEN

DEAR CONFUSED: You are an intelligent young woman. You can see that although this young man is sweet, charming and adorable, he isn't completely honest. A five-year involvement is usually a serious one -- so someone is going to be hurt. I don't want it to be you.

The next time you see him, remind him that he told you he'd give you "anything you want." Tell him what you want is for him to do the honest thing and inform the lady he's been seeing that he's met someone. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know about his level of sincerity.