DEAR ABBY: I have always wondered how to address food servers in restaurants. Do you call them "Sir" or "Miss" or "Waiter"? It is hard to call a food server "Miss" when she's more than 50 years old and may be married. See what I mean? -- RONALD IN OCEAN SPRINGS, MISS.
DEAR RONALD: Yes, I do see what you mean. Politely ask for the server's name, and use it.