DEAR ABBY: I am 26 and have been engaged for two years. The problem is that my fiance doesn't want to make a life for us. He is 28, and still lives at home with his divorced 51-year-old mother and her 38-year-old live-in boyfriend.
My fiance has no living expenses and operates his own business. He talks about finding a place for us, but it's just talk -- he never makes any effort. I have tried everything to motivate him, but nothing seems to work.
Abby, his living arrangements and his procrastination about finding us a place to live together don't seem normal. Should I just throw in the towel? -- UPSET IN MISSOURI
DEAR UPSET: Not yet. Since your fiance hasn't moved forward in finding the two of you a place to live, begin looking on your own. If you find something affordable, take him to see it so you can sign a lease together. If he starts making excuses -- then it's time to throw in the towel.