DEAR ABBY: I was recently invited to a bridal shower for a new family member. I accepted this invitation and later learned from my sister-in-law that the wedding was the following weekend.
She received an invitation to the wedding; I didn't. The wedding was billed as a "small, intimate family wedding." At the shower, I learned that my husband's aunt (the bride's mother) invited her close friends and only a few family members!
Is it proper to invite a member of the family to a bridal shower but not to the wedding? -- INSULTED IN GEORGIA
DEAR INSULTED: Absolutely not. Since you were invited to the shower, you should have been invited to the wedding also.