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by Abigail Van Buren

Son Accepts Gay Dad's Gifts but Not His Longtime Lover

DEAR ABBY: I just moved to Los Angeles two months ago, but my boyfriend of five months will not be able to move from Houston to California for another four years.

So far, we call every other night, send e-mails, and we plan to visit each other as often as we can. Do you think it is possible for us to maintain this long-distance relationship for four years? -- LOST IN LOVE IN LOS ANGELES

DEAR LOST IN LOVE: I'm doubtful. It's easy to put your faith in the old quote, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder," but the reality is that when you find yourself alone on a Saturday night or at a party, another expression will come to mind: "Out of sight, out of mind."