DEAR ABBY: I am a widower, living in California, writing in response to the woman who signed herself "Second Love." I suspect that her husband doesn't know when he is well-off. He is very fortunate to love and be loved by a second wife. Not all men are so blessed. He should remove all the pictures of his former wife, except possibly one group picture of the family.
Abby, after my wife of 45 years died, I realized that I could never create new memories with her again. When I remarried, I put all my family pictures into a drawer, and I review them periodically.
I cannot afford to let the past interfere with the present. The past has gone, and nothing can change it. I am very fortunate to have loved and been loved by two wonderful women, and I intend to keep it that way. -- DAVID S. EICHER, GLENDALE, CALIF.
DEAR DAVID: Your pragmatism is admirable. I agree there is much to be said about living in the present. However, not everyone reacts in the same manner to loss and grieving.