DEAR ABBY: This has bothered me for the past 12 years.
I have been married almost 43 years. After our last child moved out, my husband had a midlife crisis. To be specific, he had an affair with someone half his age. Abby, she was younger than two of our children. Out of this affair came a baby. We had DNA testing to be sure it was his.
My question: What is this child to me? What should she call me? She calls me by my first name, which irritates me. Please do not print my name or location. -- IRRITATED
DEAR IRRITATED: The child is not related to you, and if there's a formal designation for someone in your situation, I'm not aware of it. Assuming there are warm feelings between the two of you, select a nickname for her to call you and ask her to please use it.