DEAR ABBY: For 20 years or more, I have given my grandchildren and great-grandchildren lessons -- swimming, dance, music, karate -- as gifts. I always check with the parents for their approval first.
I start with basic, beginning lessons at age 3 or 4 and continue if the child is interested. They end up with a lifetime skill, not a room full of stuff. -- GIVING GRANDMA
DEAR GIVING GRANDMA: That's terrific. Talents that are nourished in childhood can bring years of pleasure in years to come.
In addition, other readers suggested treating the grandchildren to breakfast, long walks, lunch in the park, trips to the library or zoo, gardening, or simply reading and/or singing with them. Any of these activities will increase closeness in the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren.