DEAR ABBY: I am 16 years old and will be a junior in high school in September. My boyfriend and his parents have invited me on a family vacation with them. About a dozen people will be going.
My parents have known "Ryan" (my boyfriend) and his family for several years. Ryan's parents have offered to talk to mine about this, but so far my parents refuse to let me go. There will be plenty of adults around, and of course Ryan and I would have separate sleeping quarters.
My dad suggested I write to you and ask if you think it would be OK for me to go. He promised that after we receive your reply, we will discuss the issue again. The trip is scheduled for the third week of August, so I need your answer as soon as possible. -- TEEN WHO WANTS TO TRAVEL
DEAR TEEN: The circumstances surrounding your vacation appear appropriate. Your boyfriend's parents will be there to supervise, you will have separate sleeping accommodations, and this is a family vacation.
I am sure over the years you and your family have discussed responsible behavior. Since Ryan's parents have invited you, it means they trust you. If you conduct yourself accordingly, I see no reason why you shouldn't go.
DEAR ABBY: Some people may think my problem is silly, but they don't realize how serious it is to me. Please don't laugh, because I have no control over this, and it is making my life miserable.
My problem is jealousy. I am jealous of all other females, and it has made my life pure hell. I am 37 years old and the mother of two children. I have a good husband, if he can manage to live with me. My family and friends, my husband and even my children think I am way overboard with my feelings of jealousy.
Please help me. This is not a joke. Jealousy is ruining my life. -- JEALOUS JULIA IN OHIO
DEAR JEALOUS JULIA: Jealousy is no laughing matter. As you know firsthand, it can make you and those around you miserable.
Until you learn to feel more secure about yourself, you will probably continue to have these feelings. Short-term therapy, focused specifically on this issue, will help you recognize that your feelings are not based in reality, and will give you useful tools to manage them. You may have to work hard to conquer this, as any counselor will tell you, but it can be done.
DEAR ABBY: Since I have retired, I go shopping with my wife more often. I have noticed women putting their purses or wallets in their shopping carts, then turning their backs on them while they look for items they may want to purchase.
Anyone could easily pick up these purses or wallets and walk away with them. I would like to see fewer women doing this because I'm the type of person who would chase someone I saw taking another's purse. I'd probably end up in the hospital. So for my sake, please advise women to keep their purses with them, not leave them in the carts. -- FRANK LAWRENCE, REDWOOD CITY, CALIF.
DEAR FRANK: Far be it from me to endanger your health and safety. Ladies, for Frank's sake, please keep your purses and wallets with you; never leave them unattended.
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