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by Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: Recently you printed a letter from "Dorothy," who was pleased that people with unwanted babies bring them to a hospital or police station, rather than leaving them to die.

That letter appeared in the Sunday paper on April 5. On the same Sunday, at 4:30 p.m., a newborn baby girl was found abandoned at the coffee lounge in front of the main doors of Legacy Emanuel Hospital's Family Birth Center in Portland, Ore.

I don't know if this was a coincidence, but we had never heard of a baby being left at a hospital before. The infant immediately received the medical care she needed and is doing fine. We nurses loved taking care of her, and we named her Star.

More than 200 people called regarding adopting her. Because of Star, attention was called to hundreds of other children in need of homes. Several of them have found homes!

Star presently is in a loving foster home, and if her mother doesn't come forward, she'll eventually be placed in an adoptive home -- making some family overjoyed, I'm sure.

We don't know the mother's circumstances, or why she felt she needed to leave her child -- but we are so happy her mom left her in a safe place. Wouldn't this be wonderful to read about more often?

I hope Dorothy's letter and this one will encourage mothers in dire circumstances to seek help, or to leave their babies where they'll be taken care of. -- JENNIFER BISSETT, R.N., LEGACY EMANUEL HOSPITAL, PORTLAND, ORE.

DEAR JENNIFER: Thank you for a wonderful upper of a letter. I, and many others, share your wish.

DEAR ABBY: I read your column every day, and it seems that at least once a week part of it is devoted to domestic violence. One would think that this problem is rampant in our country. However, there's another side to this subject that needs to be addressed.

All a woman has to do is charge her spouse with domestic violence, and he is automatically considered guilty and immediately removed from the house. My son's estranged wife has done this three times. The first time, the charges were dismissed. The second time, she dropped the charges when she learned that he had taped the incident, proving that she had no grounds.

The third incident is coming to trial soon. My son is sure to win the case, as it is obviously bogus, but there is nothing to prevent her from doing it again.

In the meantime, her boyfriend is living in the house my son is paying for.

I certainly agree that there should be no tolerance for domestic violence. However, the fact that many women are claiming it for their own purposes must be recognized. Speaking to police and attorneys, I am aware that this practice is much more common than the general public is aware.

I cannot sign my name, as my son's case is still in the courts, but I hope that you'll devote some space in your column to this growing problem. Sign me ... SEEKING JUSTICE

DEAR SEEKING: Thank you for pointing out that there are usually two sides to every story. I hope your son not only wins, but his wife will cease and desist from making her false charges.

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