DEAR ABBY: I know you have been asked this question hundreds of times, but I need some answers.
I am a 29-year-old woman. I am constantly told that I am good-looking, and I wish I had a dollar for every man who has asked, "How come a pretty girl like you isn't married?"
I am friendly and have no hang-ups that I'm aware of, but I just can't seem to meet the right man. I refuse to go out with married men (some have asked). I would like to date more, but I have no idea how to find single, decent men. Any suggestions? -- CLEMENTINE (NOT MY REAL NAME)
DEAR CLEMENTINE: Your question is one I receive frequently. (Too bad I'm not running a dating service; there are just as many men asking where they can find a decent woman.)
One of the first booklets I published is titled, "How to Be Popular: You're Never Too Young or Too Old." The message is as applicable today as it was 20 years ago. In a nutshell: Decent people are found where decent people gather.
Get out of the house and become involved. Enroll in an adult education class, learn to paint or sew, or take a class in auto mechanics or computer training.
Volunteer your services. There are plenty of underprivileged, disabled, elderly and teen-agers who could use a friend. Get involved with your political party, your church or a professional organization.
Take dancing lessons -- square dancing, line dancing, ballroom or salsa. Take up fishing or hiking, or join a gym or health club.
Do some entertaining and ask your friends to bring a friend. Let your friends and co-workers know you're available. If you have children, join Parents Without Partners.
P.S. You may not meet someone eligible right away, but you will make new friends -- and they may have a friend who's perfect for you.