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by Abigail Van Buren

Request for Silver Flatware Tarnishes Family Relations

DEAR ABBY: My friend recently phoned to tell me she was writing thank-you notes to all the people who helped her and her three young children after they were in a serious auto accident with an 18-wheeler.

Among those she was thanking was a Tennessee highway patrolman who had given her a traffic ticket the month before because she didn't have her children buckled up.

Every one of them received major injuries even though they were wearing seat belts, but they survived the accident. My friend feels that the highway patrolman probably saved their lives by giving her a wake-up call.

Please keep reminding people to use their seat belts. -- PAULINE MILLER, ATHENS, TENN.

DEAR PAULINE: Your letter provides the perfect opportunity for me to do just that. Consider it done!