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by Abigail Van Buren

Man Admits to Worshipping the Feet Women Walk On

DEAR ABBY: I need your opinion on a very unusual subject. I am a single guy with a "foot fetish." I have this tremendous fantasy of worshipping women's feet -- bare or with stockings. I love to do everything from kissing and sniffing their feet to sucking their toes.

My question to you, Abby: How common is this fetish among guys, and is it curable? -- RAY IN CANADA

DEAR RAY: Having a foot fetish simply means that you are "turned on" (sexually stimulated) by feet. It's nothing new, and it's not dangerous. If you want to know what causes it, a psychotherapist could probably dig it out of your subconscious. Or, if you find a willing "sole-mate," you can explore the reason together.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are hurt and angry about a thank-you note our niece sent us for the $50 we gave her for her high school graduation. Her friends might think it was funny, but we don't.

The note read: "Uncle Jack and Aunt Judy: Thank you for the dollars and the card. Screw college! The cash will be used on wiser things, like a trip to Acapulco, Mexico (and alcohol). Love, Sally."

Should we let Sally and her mother know how we feel? Or should we just give her gifts instead of money from now on? -- IRRITATED IN MICHIGAN

DEAR IRRITATED: Don't be so hard on your niece. She is no doubt feeling independent now that she is about to be out on her own, and she was trying to be funny. At least you received a thank-you note. There is nothing to be gained by confronting Sally and her mother. And by all means, in the future, send her gifts instead of cash if you're afraid she'll spend the money frivolously.

DEAR ABBY: I am a 53-year-old widow with four grown children who are not financially well-off. My deceased husband left me fairly well-fixed financially. I have several bank accounts that I share jointly with my 28-year-old son. The house is in my name alone.

I recently met a very attractive man. We're discussing marriage, and he has moved in with me. He is twice-divorced and claims he doesn't have anything -- just an old car and some furniture he's had in storage since he moved in with me. I have a small joint bank account with him.

Abby, do you think I need a prenuptial agreement? He is an honest, decent man. -- UNCERTAIN IN UTAH

DEAR UNCERTAIN: I think a prenuptial agreement is an excellent idea. Put everything in writing before you tie the knot. Good luck and best wishes.

DEAR ABBY: I'd like to add to your collection of random acts of kindness.

I live in a retirement community of about 125 ranch homes. Two neighborhood men get up for an early walk every morning. As they pass the homes that have newspapers delivered there, they pick up the papers that have been pitched into bushes or slightly off the porches, and place them near the front doors -- rain or shine. Isn't that nice? -- SUN CITY SENIOR

DEAR SENIOR: Yes, it's very nice. The two men who perform this generous service daily receive instant rewards from the healthful exercise, but they also deserve verbal thanks. Hooray for them -- and hooray to you for citing their daily good deeds.

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