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by Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: In reference to the letter from "Waiting With Baited Hook," I am a 47-year-old, happily married fisherman. I have had the loveliest fishing partner in the world for the past 14 years and have enjoyed every minute of it. There's nothing like sharing the outdoors with your soul mate, teaching her and sharing her excitement in catching a fish. The excitement of fishing is doubled when the experience is shared by someone who is close to you instead of just a "good ole boy" fishing partner.

A turtle on a log, a full moon on a summer night or a gray heron lifting off the water shouldn't be wasted with just one of the guys. Eat your hearts out, guys -- my fishing partner is prettier than yours! -- TERRY DRAUGHON, FROM THE BIG BASS CAPITAL OF TEXAS, LAKE FORK

DEAR TERRY: You'll be pleased to know that my desk has been swamped by a tidal wave of letters carrying similar sentiments. Read on:

DEAR ABBY: The letter from "Waiting With Baited Hook" brought to mind my daughter and son-in-law. They met 10 years ago at a dance. After they'd been dating a few months, we invited him along on a deep-sea fishing trip. When he discovered that our daughter not only enjoyed fishing, but could bait her own hook with live anchovies, he was really impressed. They have been married for nine years and are expecting their first baby in a couple of months.

I'll bet that baby will be fishing as soon as he or she can hold a fishing pole. -- FISHING GRANDMA, BURBANK, CALIF.

DEAR FISHING: It appears that he fell for your daughter hook, line and sinker. (I couldn't resist.)

DEAR ABBY: In response to "Waiting With Baited Hook in Nevada," please let me assure you that just because a woman knows how to fish is no guarantee that she'll be attractive to men.

I am a single middle-aged woman who is addicted to fishing. I own several kinds of boats and enough tackle to sink one.

Guess what? Not one fisherman has taken the bait in more than 20 years. I'm no mermaid, but I'm also not a carp. So much for fishing to catch a man. -- 'THE HAPPY HOOKER' FROM NEW YORK

DEAR HAPPY HOOKER: Most of the readers I've heard from verified the experience of "Waiting With Baited Hook." Perhaps you should be casting your lure in other waters.

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for more than 30 years. Ours has been a very happy marriage. However, every night before going to bed, she puts her hair up in curlers. Now she keeps asking me why I don't kiss her goodnight when we go to bed.

Abby, how would you like to make love to a porcupine? She says she wants to look good for me the next day.

How would you suggest I solve this problem? -- FRANK B. IN CHICAGO

DEAR FRANK: Ask her to please wear a shower cap when she retires, or use hot rollers in the morning.

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